Caring for yourself means caring for others. This might not register correctly on the first read. So, consider the inverse of the sentiment. Caring for others means caring for yourself. By this, I mean that the only way to become the best and most reliable connection in anyone’s life is to work on who you are. Often we search to give all of ourselves to other people, particularly where our family and loving relationships are concerned. This is wonderful, and of course, I am not going to dissuade you from doing that.
In today’s blog post, I simply hope to make the case that you could find some real and renewed life value by considering your willingness to put yourself first, or at least a prioritized second. I had been through so much this last few months, that I learned to put myself first the hard way. Here is why that matters:
You Spend Time In Growth
When you give everything to others as a default, you will often find your energies invested into those people permanently. This is, of course, necessary in some instances. Your infant child requires you help them grow, at the expense of yourself for a time. This is non-negotiable, and thankfully absolutely desirable. However, when it comes to providing the same total care for someone who has the competence themselves, you stop growing, as you become totally focused on the health of that person over yourself.
This means you lack time to develop your interests and hobbies. It might mean your career could take a back foot. It might also mean you become less inclined to seek out role models that inspire you. This could come from anywhere, from a religious figure to a relative to a political idol such as the continued office of Reagan Secretary of State. When you have time to focus on yourself, you realize you have just as much value as the people around you. Ironically, the more you understand this, the better you will treat other people, and contend with them fairly and respectfully. Seeing your own worth and faults means you will be much more appreciative and forgiving of those traits in other people.
Self Does Not Mean Sacrifice
It’s important to know that just because you have authority over your own actions, you shouldn’t be forced to suffer so someone else doesn’t. Again, unless child-rearing, you can actually harm both yourself and the other person by looking out for them with too much enthusiasm. Also, when you understand that just because you can handle it, you shouldn’t have to eviscerate your wants and needs as second class requirements.
Allowing yourself to need, want, desire and pursue will help you become a much more engaged and reactive person, filled with vitality. After all, to be interesting, you need to be interested. To be interested, you need time and space to become so. Responsibilities can be burdensome, but this should never be robbed from you, as it helps regulate your health more than any other form of emotional protection.
So, caring for yourself will automatically make you better at looking out for other people. This might mean scheduling some alone time during the nap of your infant, or simply communicating that you have too much on your plate to the right person. By doing so you’ll find yourself to be a much happier, healthier, and peaceful person.
I hope I was able to help you through this post, leave a comment below if you have any questions.
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